Do you feel your knees shaking in social events? Do you feel shy initiating conversations? Do you stay quiet when you do have so much to say? Do you forget what you wanted to say when it is your turn to say something? Do you care what people think of you or your actions?
Then I have good news for you. You are not alone and there are ways to help you get out of your shell and face your insecurities. In matter of fact we should not care of what people say or think about us, because it only stops us from reaching our true potential. It stops us from being happy. It stops us from loving ourselves and occasionally contributes to isolation and depression. You do not have to fear of anything or feel insecure or feel that you are being judged with every step you take.
Raising Self-Esteem and changing our Self-Image takes practice but is definitely well worth the effort as the result is increased confidence and a new Unstoppable self-image. Wake up feeling good about yourself, able to face the world with confidence and security and the knowing that nothing and no one can come in your way of achieving your desires.
There are hundreds of books written on the subject of how beat shyness and gain confidence, change your self-image, a list of some of which you can find at the end of this article, and there are a few techniques that anyone can practice.
I am describing here what I found the 7 WAYS TO A BETTER MORE CONFIDENT YOU most powerful techniques to raise your self-esteem and shine:
Every morning, as soon as you get up, get in front of a mirror and say out loud “I am enough” 5 times and also “I am so happy and grateful now that I am confident and shine”.
Repeat these affirmations with enthusiasm at least ten times every day until it’s ingrained into your subconscious mind. If it feels a little awkward to begin with lock yourself in the bathroom. The results will amaze you.
2. The Power of Visualization
Imagine a person you admire and would like to be like. How does this person walk? How does this person talk? How does this person dress and behave? Imagine your self being this person and start acting like it.
3. Take Care of You
Look your best. Dress up more often. This gives you an extra feeling of confidence and self-esteem. On its own just knowing that you look good will boost your confidence and reinforce with others that there are things about you that are worth getting to know.
4. Get out of the Box
Take a risk at least once a day. It’s very invigorating and conquering fears by taking risks helps you grow in confidence and self-esteem. Start with small risks and fears and as you overcome them move onto bigger things. There’s nothing you cannot do. Be confident in knowing that change can only help you GROW and boost your self-confidence.
5. Admit being Shy
When you are engaged in a one to one conversation, or with a larger group of people, let them know that you’re shy. This prevents them from misreading you and they are far more likely to invite you into the conversation rather than leave you just listening and wishing you could contribute.
Many people, me included, find following a conversation in a noisy room difficult. If you are having difficulty say so and move so that you can hear. People respect honesty, and vulnerability and you will attract more honest people into your life as a result.
6. Do not take Rejection personally
Rejection is a fact of life that everyone experiences. It is rarely you that is being rejected. If you are rejected, for example if you ask someone for a date, remember that everyone has different likes and dislikes. You may be attracted to one type of person and not others. The same applies to other people and you are probably just not their type. That does not devalue you in any way. Accept this and know that you will get over it. Never take it personally and keep in mind that if people reject you it is because of their own likes and dislikes and not because of who you are. You are equally entitled to reject others because of your likes and dislikes.
7. Celebrate your Success
Instead of criticizing yourself you should pat yourself on the shoulder for the things you have accomplished. They do not have to be big things. It can be this cookie that was offered to us and managed to say no, or it could be that we did win something, or it could be that we found the strength to speak to a person or even win the lottery.
Make a list of at least 20 victories you had in life and start keeping a diary for all the victories from now on.
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